January 28, 2009

The Tourist Trap

When I think of Siem Reap, the words “tourist trap” come to mind. What you don’t know, is how absolutely thrilling those two words are after 6 months in-country as a “native.” I know it seems like every other weekend I’m running off to Battambang or Phnom Penh … but Siem Reap puts them both to shame. Phnom Penh caters to the ex-pat crowd. Sure, there are tons of Westerners, but most of them live here and have more then their share of dirt under their fingernails as a result. As for Battambang, it’s still a Khmer city and, aside from the occasional backpacker, lacks a lot of tourist attention. Of course, this is what mainly gives Battambang its charm. But, if it’s a true vacation that you want, Siem Reap has no competition.

As we taxied into the city, I saw billboards, resort-style hotels,
and shops with automatic doors. I almost cried right then and there. In essence: it was a beautiful display of capitalism. I’m sure some of you just cringed, but I assure you, if you spend six months away from the convenience of Target, the night life of any remotely metropolitan area, and the allure of consumption, you will feel entirely different. Most of what we did this weekend is par for the course in the United States or Europe, but in Cambodia it’s an oasis of my own culture.

After getting over our initial shock, we checked into our hotel, grabbed some lunch and went shopping. We all indulged on our own poisons. In the matter of an hour, each of us transformed slightly from our frugal, discreet selves into a shade of who we were just six months ago. Honest to God, I felt like I was coming out of hibernation as I thumbed through racks of clothing. Some people went for art, and others more epicurean delights … but everyone found something.

We all rushed back to the hotel to fawn over our new purchases before dinner and freshen up. If there’s a town in Cambodia where you can dress up, it’s Siem Reap. Naturally, I christened one of my new shirts that evening, put on make up, and did my hair. I realize how mundane this must sound to you, but my life lacks all those daily rituals of beautification because they simply have no place at my site. To be able to feel pretty - to wear something that shows my shoulders and a little lip gloss - is exhilarating.
As usual, I could write a whole book about the food we ate alone, but bragging to you about eating penne bolognaise wouldn’t get the response I’m used to when I tell other volunteers that I didn’t have to eat rice. That being said, trust me - if you eat something twice a day, everyday (especially something bland and starchy like rice) ANYTHING different seems extraordinary. The night passed in typical form, but we all turned in early. In honesty, I think we were all blown away by the city and needed a night to decompress and take everything in without the sensory overload of going out.

The following day we lounged around and then went to the pool. We swam and played chicken, splashing each other and racing across the pool. In the interims, there were also people to watch, and beer to drink. Laying on my towel, listening to country music and sipping my beer with no firm future plans farther than the next ten minutes felt like a true vacation. Once we all had enough sun, the boys split up for some bro-bonding and the girls headed in town for some pre-happy hour margaritas.

Saturday night was one to remember. I broke out my little black dress, Kelsey straightened her hair, Katie put on extra eyeliner, Deidre and Rebecca wore new outfits. Siem Reap didn’t know what was about to hit it. We met up with Will and Steph and the rest of the boys in the lobby to get some Mexican food. All you can eat one-dollar margaritas and tacos. Oh baby. Needless to say, by the end of dinner we were ready to go bar hopping. We hit all the major hot spots in a matter of an hour and a half: the Temple for 2-for-1 cocktails, Angkor What? for shots of absinthe, the Beer Lounge for beer of course, and a few other key stops before the girls split up from the guys. Sorry boys, a night like this doesn’t come along very often in Cambodia, and you were throwing off our game.


I’ll spare you a play by play of what can only be described as a very typical night on the town. However, I will say waking up at 8:30 a.m. for breakfast was like taking a bullet. I forgot how much life could hurt when you go to bed after 4:00 a.m. After breakfast, I napped. For several hours. Then, Deidre, Kelsey and I went for an afternoon snack and some people watching. Towards the end of the afternoon, we wandered around the supermarket for an hour or so. Yes, I said supermarket. There are only two supermarkets in this country, and I bet you’d walk around it for an hour too if you had forgotten what packaged meat and Glade plug-ins looked like.

That night, we got dolled up again, shared our last meal and hit the town for round two. Although we didn’t stay out as late as we had the previous night, they were equally fun. When my alarm went off at 6:00 a.m., reminding me that my bus was leaving at 7:00 to take me back to the real world, I thought about “accidentally” missing my bus and staying in Siem Reap for a few extra days … or months. Whatever. Of course, I couldn’t do that.

The bus ride was long and uneventful compared to a weekend that seemed to fly by in a blur of good food, good friends and lots of fun. When I returned to site, I poured out my overnight bag on the floor and grabbed my camera so I could relive my weekend memories a few more times before I curled up under my quilt and took a long, late-afternoon nap. Who would have thought being a tourist could be so much fun?

(p.s. - new photos up from the weekend)

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January 21, 2009

These Are a Few of My Favorite Things - Remix

Top 10Things about the Bode
1. Looking up at the stars as I ride my bike back after my evening classes, while listening to Il Divo’s rendition of the Unchained Melody
2. Ice cold Ovaltine with sweetened, condensed milk and made-to-order fruit smoothies from street vendors
3. Being able to take an hour-long nap after lunch … and not feeling guilty at all

4. Teaching myself to play guitar like Joni Mitchell
5. Bad EngRish t-shirts (see photo evidence)
6. Listening to my students at Sustainable Cambodia sing The 12 Days of Christmas at the end of every class just because
7. Seeing cows and goats walk across the courtyard at school on a daily basis
8. Texting Deidre and Katie about Gossip Girl -- at least someone in this country appreciates that Nate and Vanessa should not be hooking up
9. Startling unsuspecting Cambodians with my bike horn
10. Oreo and Salsa (cats at my house) … when they aren’t trying to sneak into my bedroom



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January 16, 2009

New Photos!

New photos from my trip to Phnom Penh, Preh Net Preah and Battambang. Happy stalking!

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Weekend Report

With most of my settling in allowance still in the bank, and a green light to travel, what makes you think I wasted last weekend in Pursat? We weren’t having school on Friday anyway, so it seemed like another perfect opportunity to see some of the country. That, and Deidre has the new Bond movie. Friday morning, I hitched a taxi to Battambang, caught a second to Svay, and a third to Preh Net Preah. I hate riding in taxis. They’re all the same: Toyota Camry (post 1980 on a good day). Four passengers up front, which is especially fun if you get the seat straddling the stick shift, four passengers in the back and usually some crazy old lady petting your arm hair. Believe me, I wish I were kidding.

Once I arrived, Deidre and I treated ourselves to a cold Ovaltine and a serious gossip session. On our way to her house, we grabbed a bottle of wine, some crackers and pineapple so we could watch the sunset in style from her roof. It was actually cold that evening - cold being 65 of course - so we ran upstairs after dinner, snuggled in, and got ready for a mini Gossip Girl marathon.


The next day, we got up early and headed out to the orphanage where Deidre volunteers. The facilities are beautiful and it was great to see how happy the kids looked in their element. We headed back for lunch, then met up with a few British volunteers for some light hiking. We climbed up a small mountain to a picturesque temple overlooking the countryside. Because it hasn’t rained in a while, the land is an interesting patchwork of green and tan that reminds me of a quilt my mom made.

That evening, we all got dinner together and watched the Bond movie. Deidre fell asleep 10 minutes in and I lasted about an hour before I started zoning out, but it’s the thought that counts.
Sunday morning, I was prepping to head home when I got a text message from Jason: he was coming to Battambang for the weekend! Since I was heading back through there on my way to Pursat, I decided to stay too. Jason was there with Derek, Kevin and Liz, so we all went out to eat, got some ice cream and grabbed a few drinks at the Gecko Lounge.

Seeing a few K1s was just what I needed to wrap up an already excellent weekend. Being able to talk with someone who has “been there, done that” is always hugely reassuring. Plus, they’re just tons of fun…and they’re leaving soon, so I have to get my fill of them now. Monday, we hit the Sunrise CafĂ© for the usual breakfast sandwich and cinnamon roll before we hired a took-took to take us to a winery in the area. A winery!? Who knew! The wine was surprisingly good, given that grapes aren’t a primary crop in Cambodia.
I finally decided to catch a bus back around 2:00.

The rest of the week has bounced by the way it always does when I’m looking at a four day work week. Although I don’t have any plans for this weekend, a bunch of us are heading to Siem Riep next weekend since we don‘t have school the following Monday. Sense a trend here? You know what they say, good things always come in threes. Phnom Penh, Preh Net Preah and Battambang … next stop: Siem Riep!

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Six Month Slump

You know, I honestly believe every relationship (even the best ones) hit that point where you think to yourself, “Now or never -- it’s time to bail!” I call it The Six Month Slump. As my friends will tell you, it’s my excuse for nearly all relationship malfunctions between the six and nine month mark. At six months, it isn’t a novelty anymore and you need to decide if you can continue playing the “casual dating” card or if you need to take the dive into a - gasp - serious relationship. This is about where I’m at with my relationship with Cambodia.

No one panic or start celebrating yet, I’m not thinking about bailing. But I will admit I’m on the upswing of my own, personal Six Month Slump with Cambodia. I left San Fran thinking I’d have revolutionized my school, brought new hope to the country and slipped seamlessly into life in Cambodia by now … boy, how arrogant was I? Change takes time, especially when you’re dealing with a broken system, filled with extreme poverty or internal corruption when the smallest glimmer of hope (translation: funding) appears. It’s not that people don’t want to change, it’s just that sometimes the obstacles seem endless, and that can beat down even the most optimistic of hearts.

Recently, I’ve been questioning exactly what I’m doing here. What am I doing here when I can’t even convince my co-teachers to come to work on time? What am I doing here when we have multiple holidays in a week, effectively ruining student and teacher motivation with one fell swoop? What am I doing here when I still can’t communicate my goals to the people I’m working with? Yikes. What AM I doing here? And that question is the essence of the Peace Corps experience. It’s finding a way to help people despite the odds … and certainly despite your own expectations for what “the perfect service” should be.

Every volunteer from the first group to serve here has said the same thing. They all thought about throwing in the towel at one point or another, and - surprise, surprise - most of them said it was that six to nine month period that seemed the hardest. Six months in … a year an a half of people staring, pinching you on the street, and not taking your work seriously to go. As if the thought of returning to family, friends and the glorious 20-something lifestyle wasn’t enough to make you want to go home. But that’s the false allure of the Six Month Slump.

It’s easy to think back on the fun of being single when you’re in a relationship, but rarely do you reflect on all those hours spent waiting for the phone to ring. Okay, so the analogy is a bit of a stretch, but you see where I’m going with this. During those low points, your instinct will always be to think about what you’re missing. The more important question is: what would you be missing if you gave up?

When I step back and look at my life, I’m practically living in a dream. What do I have to complain about? I’m healthy (this week anyway), have good friends, some great projects on the horizon, and a charmed life to return to when this dream is over. I wake up every morning in the tropics to fresh coconut milk, fresh air and an adventure that I’ll never be able to have again. Sure it’s hard, and sometimes it feels good to wallow in that bubble of doubt (doubt about the culture, my work, myself, whatever), but I do see progress in my students, and even though service isn’t what I expected, I’m still serving.

That isn’t to say there won’t be days when all I want to do is see my family, go out to dinner with my friends, or catch the next plane out of here, but I can finally answer that question. What am I doing here? I’m here to show my students that there’s a bigger world out there, and they can be part of it. I’m here to see 15 girls graduate from the first annual Camp G.L.O.W. - Cambodia this July, and I’m here to learn with my students at Sustainable Cambodia. It’s fair to say I’m also here to learn about myself.

I have more time than I ever imagined to think about what’s important to me, what I want out of life, and who I want to be when I come home. Talk to me in another year and a half and I’ll tell you. For now, it looks like I’ve committed to that long term relationship.

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January 6, 2009

Freedom!

90 days. Just 90 days. We weren’t supposed to leave our provinces for the first three months of service to give ourselves time to fully “integrate“ at site. Now, some of us -may or may not have taken this mandate more seriously than others, but the fact of the matter is: our travel was limited no matter what. Even with seeing everyone over Christmas, we were still feeling a little antsy to get out of Dodge. Especially with all the Cambodian holidays that have been popping up lately. To give you an idea of what I mean: I had two days off last week, I have a day off this week, and I’ll have half of next week off for an array of reasons I won’t even pretend to understand. That’s a lot of time to sit and daydream about an impending vacation. Trust me. The “Champs” - as we call ourselves - had been planning our first free weekend for well … months. The five of us would be back in action in Phnom Penh for the first time and we were absolutely thrilled.

Deidre bussed down to my site on Thursday and we headed out early Friday morning. As it turned out, the rest of our crew wouldn’t be coming in until Saturday. When we got to Phnom Penh, we didn’t waste any time though. We hit up our favorite pizza place for pizza and beer and then headed to Sorya market for some shopping and ice cream. After we had successfully made gluttons of ourselves, we headed back to the hotel to nap and relax before we went out. We discovered that Tyler, Chris and Colin were all in town too, so it looked like the night was shaping up to be a huge success. Unfortunately, Tyler ended up getting violently ill within hours of his arrival and had to bail for the night. D, Chris, Colin and I all went out for happy hour and Indonesian food before the boys announced that they needed to head back to the hotel. They were in town to take the GREs, and their more responsible side ended up winning out over Deidre and my party plans. Their loss, of course ;)

First on the list, we headed to an outdoor bar called Elsewhere. It was exactly what we needed - the minute you walk through the door, you feel like you could be anywhere….but probably not Cambodia. After an hour or so of people watching, we headed to Riverhouse for some dancing. The DJ was incredible and I realized how much I had been missing night life. I mean, Pursat is great, but everything closes by 9:30-10:00, and playing Kings at a guest house really just isn’t the same.

While dancing, we were scouting for potential “targets” … I mean, what girls’ night would be complete without at least one free drink from an unsuspecting backpacker or diplomat’s son? Naturally, there were no suitable guys, so we had to settle for a couple of cute Cambodian girls instead. Typical. The four of us danced and laughed until the night blurred into a haze of flashing lights and good music (for a change).

Saturday morning we got up early and headed to Corner 33 to get some work done. In fairness, we didn’t get a lot of work done though. We spent the morning swapping music and catching up on e-mails. Katie was the first of the remaining Champs to arrive. She got in around noon, so the three of us headed to a Mexican restaurant off the riverfront to kick the rest of the weekend off right. Deidre and I did pull it together and get some work done in the afternoon. We hammered out a rough outline for our funding proposal for Camp G.L.O.W. and then called it a day. We were just finishing up when Tiffany and Tara arrived, so we scooted back to the hotel, did a quick review of the last three months and then headed to our rooms to get pretty. We ended up eating Mexican again … I mean, who can resist? … and then hit a few clubs for more dancing. Like I said … who can resist? We actually ran into one of the Peace Corps staff during our escapades, but tried to be as discreet as possible … after all, we were trying to pretend we were tourists.

Sunday morning was bittersweet as we said our goodbyes, ate our last Western meal together and hit up some last minute shopping … but I guess wasn’t really goodbye now that we’re free!!

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January 5, 2009

Latest & Greatest

Dear All,

For the past few weeks, I have been working with an NGO in my town called Sustainable Cambodia. I work there four nights a week, teaching students from very very poor backgrounds. The NGO provides full funding for their education and for many students' needs at home. Its an incredible organization with even more incredible students. They are easily the highlight of my day ... every day. They are beautiful and intelligent and determined in a way that you wouldn't believe. If you are interested in learning more about my service here and the work that I do, please visit their website: www.sustanablecambodian.org. They are always looking for people to sponsor students, and I assure you ... it changes lives. Please take a minute and check out my latest and greatest adventure. I can't tell you how much these guys mean to me.

Love and Peace,
Whit

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Tis the Season

When Thanksgiving rolled around, I was determined not to let the holiday turn into just another day in the ’Bode. Bri and I planned to visit Tyler’s site and cook dinner, complete with “Thanksgiving chicken,” green beans and mashed - actually more like mushed up - potatoes. Okay, so there was no pumpkin pie, or outrageous family drama, but it definitely gave me those warm fuzzy feelings. Now, I don’t know about your family … but mine generally starts prepping for Christmas the day after Thanksgiving. I’m talking about non-stop Christmas music and the beginning of a long, glorious decorating process. I won’t even get into details about the Christmas tree fiascos in recent years, but lets just say, if the tree doesn’t fall down, it‘s like breaking a family tradition. This year was no exception. Other than the fact that my dad decided to boycott Christmas altogether, I realized I had no Christmas music on my iPod and it’s been averaging about 90 degrees around here. Right, and did I mention Cambodians don’t even celebrate Christmas? Ironically, my host family was planning to spend the next FEW months (yes, I said months) in the States visiting family in Jacksonville, Florida. It was perfect timing. You know the old saying: when the cat’s away … the mice will play. Holiday party at my house, anyone?

We planned on egg nog, no-bake cookies, cheesy holiday movies and an obscene amount of Christmas music (supplied by my brother, who pulled through with our family’s secret recipe for egg nog and an express postal package containing 4 MP3 CD’s worth of Christmas music. That’s a total of 236 songs, in case you were wondering). My friends Deidre, Katie and Kelsey joined me for Christmas eve to catch up on gossip, prep the food and start our movie marathon. Of course, there were also presents from my family to open that had been torturing me for a week.

I don’t think I actually realized that I was really, truly away from home until I started ripping the wrapping paper off my gifts. In my 22 years, I have always spent Christmas with my family. Even when I studied abroad, mom and dad came to visit me. As I read my parents’ card, I could feel myself loosing it. It just didn’t feel right to be so far from my family in a place that truly doesn’t understand Christmas. I looked at my friends through blurry eyes and mumbled, “Maybe this wasn’t such a good idea?” They all laughed, but I could tell Deidre was pretty close to loosing it herself. We all began trading stories about our families and what we would be doing for Christmas if we were home. Between the stories, the music and the sentimental nature of my gifts, we were all a little “misty” by the time I had finished opening presents.

We decided the only remedy would be to start on the no-bakes and egg nog … and a bag of peanut M&Ms I had received in one of my gifts. We brought my computer into the kitchen and started blasting all my favorite Christmas songs. Within minutes, we were laughing, singing and busy melting chocolate and separating eggs. Once the no-bakes and egg nog were chilling in the fridge, we all put our pajamas on and piled onto the floor in my living room to watch Elf. For those of you who haven’t seen Elf, it’s about a human who thinks he’s a Christmas elf and runs amok in Manhattan experiencing the human world. Absolutely hilarious. It reminds me of what I imagine a Cambodian would do if he were thrown unsuspectingly into the Western world. Talk about culture shock.

Christmas morning was a blur of phone calls from family and friends, chocolate chip pancakes, hot chocolate, biscotti and no bakes. In a word: perfect. We treated ourselves to massages at the new “massage parlor” near my house and started a Project Runway marathon in the afternoon. We completed the night with cheeseburgers and red wine, and fell asleep to Love Actually.

By Friday afternoon, the rest of my houseguests had arrived. There were a total of 10 people there. We had spinach-cheese dip, a fruit plate, macaroni and cheese and brucetta to go with the cookies and drinks. Everyone was in such a good mood by the end of our meal, that even the boys got into watching Project Runway with us. Of course, that didn’t stop us from capping off the night with a showing of Bad Santa.

Saturday we had planned to cook our big Christmas feast and have a gift exchange. We spent the morning shopping and then primping for the afternoon’s festivities. By noon, we were ready to go -- everything seemed to be perfect … until we decided to start cooking. The gas tank that fuels my stove was empty. Perfect. Determined not to let this get in the way of our holiday fun, we went to a swanky (by Cambodian standards, of course) restaurant near my house and picked up right where we left off. When we got back to the house we had our Yankee gift exchange, shamelessly swapping and stealing presents with each other based on a lottery system. We went out for burgers again that nigh, then headed to the guesthouse for our last night together before everyone would return home.

It certainly wasn’t traditional, but it was a good Christmas. Holidays here are what you make of them, and we made the most of ours. To you and yours … Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

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